When things are going well it is easy to stay up and be light, especially for people who rely on the external world to make them feel good. Opportunities seem to come to your doorstep. It doesn’t require that much effort to close a sale, find a new job, get a raise, etc. The world looks different when there is a slow down in the economy. Continue reading
My friend “John” (a middle aged man) wondered why his co-workers avoided him and why his personal relationships didn’t last.
John is a professional with impressive degrees. He has very little awareness of how he communicates with others. When co-workers try to clarify an issue, he behaves as if the person is attacking him. By taking things personally, he becomes suspicious, defensive and overreacts.
I made him aware enough to change the question he was asking himself from “why people don’t like me?” to “what do I need to do in order to be liked by others?” He looked shocked at first and replied, “it is not my fault, you don’t understand, people just don’t like me.” Continue reading
Ten Ways to Beat Procrastination and Achieve New Year’s Resolutions
Good Intentions Are Not Good Enough
2010 is here and the opportunity for a new start. How many times have you told yourself ‘This year I am going to start exercising, earn more money, be a better parent, reduce spending, improve effectiveness on the job, quit procrastinating, and achieve some meaningful goals’? You were really fired up at the beginning of January, as the month went on, you lost interest. You said to yourself, ‘I’ll get started in March’. Ultimately, your good intentions fell through the cracks because you got too caught up in doing things that didn’t matter. Does this sound familiar? When it comes to getting results, just good intentions are not enough. What’s missing is a system. How about a no-nonsense action plan that is written and specific? Continue reading
Our thoughts have influence over our attitude and behaviors. We have all heard from time to time “think positive” and “things will look different”. For some people it is easier said then done.
Human beings have different styles of interpreting situations, some people make a mistake and learn to do it better or more efficiently the next time around. While others make a mistake and they are devastated by it. Continue reading
Are you feeling challenged in today’s market? Is the job situation and the slowing economy getting the best of you? Through out our life we have ups and downs. Sometimes we go through periods or situations that are bizarre to say the least. When individuals feel that they can’t control what is going on they experience fear, almost panic. Continue reading