Tag Archive | Fears

A new Perspective

You may already be aware of people that say I want freedom or they are looking for freedom. You may hear people say i want freedom from the job, the spouse, the family, etc.
From my own experience and observation, what I came to realize is that what people really want is emotional freedom from their past so they can be more comfortable with themselves, to be able to make better choices and better decisions. I am wondering, how many people are aware of this?
When you find yourself responding to situations in a negative way, ask yourself, “What am I responding to”? Is it the current situation or an old fear of losing control (habit from the past)? You may have learned to respond that way a long time ago,when you didn’t have as many skills and choices that you have now. Many people have been surprised with the discoveries they have made, just by asking that question.

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DID YOU KNOW YOUR BEHAVIOR WASN’T WORKING?

My friend “John” (a middle aged man) wondered why his co-workers avoided him and why his personal relationships didn’t last.

John is a professional with impressive degrees. He has very little awareness of how he communicates with others. When co-workers try to clarify an issue, he behaves as if the person is attacking him. By taking things personally, he becomes suspicious, defensive and overreacts.

I made him aware enough to change the question he was asking himself from “why people don’t like me?” to “what do I need to do in order to be liked by others?” He looked shocked at first and replied, “it is not my fault, you don’t understand, people just don’t like me.” Continue reading

LETS NOT PRETEND IN 2010!

Ten Ways to Beat Procrastination and Achieve New Year’s Resolutions 

Good Intentions Are Not Good Enough

2010 is here and the opportunity for a new start. How many times have you told yourself ‘This year I am going to start exercising, earn more money, be a better parent, reduce spending, improve effectiveness on the job, quit procrastinating, and achieve some meaningful goals’? You were really fired up at the beginning of January, as the month went on, you lost interest. You said to yourself, ‘I’ll get started in March’. Ultimately, your good intentions fell through the cracks because you got too caught up in doing things that didn’t matter. Does this sound familiar? When it comes to getting results, just good intentions are not enough. What’s missing is a system. How about a no-nonsense action plan that is written and specific?  Continue reading

THOUGHTS AND BEHAVIOR

 Our thoughts have influence over our attitude and behaviors.   We have all heard from time to time “think positive” and “things will look different”.  For some people it is easier said then done. 

Human beings have different styles of interpreting situations, some people make a mistake and learn to do it better or more efficiently the next time around.  While others make a mistake and they are devastated by it.  Continue reading

Self Confidence

Do you need more confidence? How does a lack of confidence affect your life, your decision making, your actions, and therefore, your results?

Is there a box around your life? Frustrations, fears, and disappointments exist within that box, caused by limiting beliefs. Outside that box are confidence, self esteem, happiness and fulfillment that you have been looking for. Success Strategies and Anna Russo will provide the environment for you to get there.

  • Discover the steps that make you confident.
  • Let go of fears and limitations.
  • Recognize and change self-imposed limiting beliefs.
  • Discover how you can see yourself more valuable.
  • Learn how to appreciate who you are.
  • Experience a new confidence level for living a pleasant and productive life.

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How Well Do You Communicate

Are you frustrated with the results that you are getting?  Would you like to do something about it?  What we do in life is determined by how we communicate with ourselves and others.  In our model of the world, the quality of our life is determined by how we communicate.  What we picture and say to ourselves will determine how we feel.  We have within us all the resources necessary to be successful communicators.

We all produce two forms of communication from which the experience of our lives is generated.

  1. Internal conversations are those things we picture, say and feel within.
  2. External conversations are our words, tonalities, facial expressions, postures, and physical actions.

For many people, if they are talking with someone they disagree with they will shut them out.  They go inside themselves while the other person is talking lookingfor something to come back with.  In turn, they are not hearing the message you are sending.  Not a good strategy in a personal or business relationship.

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